here’s something i learned that may surprise some of you…
this one woman was writing about her past experiences dating. she met attractive men, successful men, kind men, religious men, all available and looking for that perfection someone. so like most other young single professionals, she found these men and dated around in the hopes that one of them would be mr. right. she’d sort of “try them out” and find out what she really wanted. sooner or later, eventually she would hit the jackpot, and she’d be all set up for marriage, kids, and ride off into the sunset.
what she ultimately learned after a myriad of unsuccessful relationships and alot of mr. wrongs, was that her method of dating around wasn’t setting her up for marriage. in fact, it was setting her up for divorce.
she would pick and choose the guys she wanted, then when things got rough, or she found something she didn’t like about them, or times were inconvenient, or for whatever reason, she would leave them.
one day she realized, that love isn’t up to chance, it’s up to choice. true love is a choice. and true love waits. the story goes, that she waited, met the perfect guy, married, and wrote a book. several in fact. one of which im reading.
could her realization be the reason that over 40% of marriages in this country end in divorce? add to that 60% of second marriages, and a whopping 75% of third. or could it be american culture as a whole. we do live in a throw away society, a wasteful society. everything in our culture is expendable. electronics, clothing, relationships… if people would only learn that God is truly enough for them, life would be so much simpler.
every day i choose to love. when things get tough i choose to love. when things are inconvenient i choose to love. when things aren’t heaven on earth i still love with everything. its not a feeling. it is a choice, and it is an awesome one. if you’re not ready to marry the person you’re seeing, then why are you with them?
choose to love, choose to wait, dare to be 100% pure…